Proverbs 4:7 says that “Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.” The Bible has much to say about the importance that wisdom and understanding has as it pertains to our personal lives. Though the word of God does not change, our culture which is often defined by its moral attitudes, can influence how we interpret God’s word. Some would have us believe that God’s word must therefore be progressive to match our changing times. The truth is this, no matter what culture we look at, either past, present or future, it can only be fully understood when it is viewed through the unchanging word of God.
The times we live in make it extremely important for the church to provide the wisdom and understanding that Proverbs requires. It is especially important in our day because there is no longer a common belief in truth, morality, or even civility. In fact, much of what confronts the church on a regular basis is in direct opposition to the wisdom found in the word of God. If the church cannot grasp the significance of the wisdom as found in God’s word how will we be able to understand the times we live in and correctly answer the questions that this world is dying to know?
For instance, I have heard Christians ask questions about the LGBTQ community and why the church isn’t more tolerant of those who live a homosexual lifestyle. If the church is not willing to answer these questions, we are forcing those who seek answers, to go where someone will make an argument and in doing so we are abdicating our responsibility to give a Godly response to their questions. We all have heard of the King James Bible but how many are aware that the LGBTQ community also has a bible called the Queen James Bible?
So how do we give an unapologetic exchange of opposing views in defense of God’s word while still loving and accepting those who we disagree with? If we use the scriptures that deal with the topic of homosexuality, as you would a hammer, (Gen. 19, Lev. 18:22, 20:13, Rom. 1:18-27, 1 Cor. 6:9-10, 1 Tim 1:9-10) without first setting the foundation for God’s heart on the subject we run the risk of alienating the person from being convicted by the Holy Spirit. For us to understand God’s heart we need to show others the sacredness that God has placed on sexuality as it relates to the covenant of marriage. The marriage covenant was given to us on the sixth day of creation. It was not something that was added later but was foundational to God’s plan for creation. The first chapter of Genesis is an overview of the first seven days of creation. The second chapter contains further revelation as to what happened during those seven days with special attention given to the sixth day and how it relates to God’s plan for man and woman.
God revealed to us that sexuality, the consummate relationship between a man and a woman, is to be considered sacred. Next to our relationship with God it is the most sacred relationship in which we will ever enter into. Any relationship that violates the sanctity that God has placed on the union between a man and woman defiles them both in God’s eyes. God from the very beginning of creation has shown humanity that marriage is to be between a man and a woman because only through a man and a woman can there be wholeness and procreation. Procreation is the consummation of that relationship which results in them, “Being fruitful and increase in number.” Gen. 1:28. That is why a marriage is not considered consummated until the sexual act between the two has taken place “a man will…be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Gen. 2:24 It is the covenant act not only between the man and the woman but also between them and God as an act of worship.
The Meaning Of The Word WISDOM
Part of our problem is that in the English language there is one definitive word for love whereas in the Greek language there are four different words for love. The first is Agape love, which refers to God’s love. The second is Eros, which refers to romantic love. The third is Philia, meaning either friendship or brotherly love. And the forth is Storgē love, which refers to protective or paternal love.
Marriage, as God intended it to be, is the only act that pulls all four of these terms together. If Agape is removed then Eros is gone. Why, because if God’s ‘agape’ love, as demonstrated in the first two Chapters of Genesis is missing then romantic love ‘eros’ becomes redefined. What was once sacred has now been turned into being a sexual desire or a lustful appetite that consumes and defiles them both individually and as a couple. They find themselves given over to ungodly passions which are fueled by their own desire for self-gratification.
I have learned that the union between a man and woman as defined by God in marriage is the ultimate worship we can give God. If the reason for the existence of creation is God’s desire to have children who are created in His image then marriage and the subsequent act of procreation reveals the heart of our Father in heaven. It is where we become a gift one to the other. The gift of Agape love is wrapped in holiness with the intent that what was received will then be given with that same intent producing within them the full expression or image of God.
It is summed up in the commitment within marriage, one to the other. When we say ‘I do’ and ‘I will’ we are saying ‘I do to the one’ and ‘I don’t to all the others’. The perfect gift is given with righteous intent and any departure from the sacredness of those four confluences of love, which the word of God defines as ‘being married’ is neither acceptable nor right in the sight of God.
As Christians we need to speak the truth while accepting people with a genuine love regardless of how different their views may be. We need to treat others with respect, no matter what their view is on marriage or who they voted for in the last election. However we need to make it clear that: God gives you the gift of CHOICE, but God will not give you the privilege of determining a different outcome to what that choice will entail. The consequences of our actions are bound by the choices we make. We do reap that which we sow!
When it comes to marriage any departure from what God has determined the definition of marriage to be is a departure from God’s moral law. When we speak the truth in love it allows the Holy Spirit to come into the midst of our discussion and impact the heart of the individual far beyond what our words can accomplish.
In Proverbs 8:10-11 it says, “Choose my instruction instead of silver, knowledge rather than choice gold, for wisdom is more precious than rubies, and nothing you desire can compare with her.” The dominant meaning of the word wisdom is hokmah. It is not simply one who possesses a masterful mind, it is also a matter of the heart; a moral quality. A wise person is one who fears the Lord and subsequently makes choices that honor God, oneself, and others.